Book details of 'He's Just Not That Into You : The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys'

Title	He's Just Not That Into You : The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Author(s)	Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
ISBN	068987474X
Language	English
Published	September 2004
Publisher	Simon Spotlight Entertainment

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Reviewer Deanne wrote:
I totally agree that this but has done nothing but keep me upset for the last 2 months. I finally met a man that is for real. He wants to go slow. It totally contradicts the book. He is not having sex with me because he respects me and wants to be sure we are right for each other. The book says he should jump in bed with me right away. The whole perspective is not right. What ever happened to doing things the right way and slow. No body stays together anymore... I wonder why?
Reviewer rob gray wrote:
I am a male licensed psychologist who works mostly with couples. This book is the worst kind of trash to play on the emotions of all of us who want to find that special person, and to find a simple answer to the complexities of dating. It seems to be a clever ploy and get-rich scheme from two writers of the tv series "Sex and the City." (this qualifies them as experts? Life is NOT a tv series). The most aggressive guys are the best guys, huh?-come on ladies! This is of the most fundamental mistakes a woman can make and is often the entry into an abusive relationship. The scenarios in the book seem tongue in cheek, even comical-sad to say it seems it is being taken seriously. The authors must be amazed! A man could easily get sued or lose his job or be accused of harassment if he followed the suggestions of the authors. It sets up also a "damned if he does, damned if he doesn't" scenario for men. The man is not agressive enough-but wait, he might also be an insensitive brute the next minute. Many of the reasons in the scenarios why the men do not become more aggressive are quite legitimate. The men who come-on very fast and aggressive may be exciting at first-but are often "players," and wear very thin in a long-term relationship ("Why can't my guy express feelings and communicate?") Perhaps the authors of this book can provide a stupid sequel to this book with silly ideas to solve THOSE problems! The ideas in the book are very counter-productive and will only feed into mistrust and anger between the genders. These authors should stick with what they know-and relationships AIN'T IT! This book will actually cause harm to people if you are naive and frustrated enough to take it seriously. Don't buy this book-toss it if you did!
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He says: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. She says: There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic. For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again. Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Maybe he's intimidated by me. He just got out of a relationship. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you." He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.